My relationship with food will honestly never be normal.
A lifetime without relapse wouldn’t be enough to change the way I hear the words,
“Wow! What a healthy meal you are eating! Good job!!”
Because instead of hearing you compliment me on my discipline I hear,
‘You are fat so you should be eating healthy.’
And from there it spirals into countless unhealthy thoughts.
I knew that many challenges would come with recovery from an eating disorder but I never thought the way that I hear things would be one of them.
Last week I was talking with my best friend who is also in recovery from an eating disorder when this realization hit me like a ton of bricks.
‘I’m not the only one!’
In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if every person who has ever had an eating disorder experiences this to some extent.
Having an eating disorder is like playing a constant game of telephone with yourself.
Your mind is so good at feeding you crap by now that it enjoys manipulating the game.
When living with a brain that is constantly obsessing about food and weight, it can feel like everything is a trigger.
Food is a necessity for survival so you can’t “avoid it” as you can with recovery from most other things.
Multiple times a day EVERY SINGLE DAY you are being tested.
Eating in general can become an anxiety provoking situation entirely.
You are at war with yourself.
And like a sick and twisted death sentence… you must eat to live.
If you have a loved one who has an eating disorder, I’m writing this for you.
Life requires learning other people so that we can all better coexist.
An eating disorder is just another one of those REAL LIFE things to navigate.
Below are some examples of life through the ears of an eating disorder.
Take a moment to intercept this as your loved one.
“Gross! She obviously eats cake for breakfast, lunch, and dinner!”
‘My worth is determined by a number on a scale…’
“You were too skinny before I’m glad to see you’ve gained some weight.”
‘You are fat now.’
“Exercise is really good for you!”
‘You should be exercising because you’re fat.’
“I’m doing the #%* diet!”
‘You should be on a diet!’
Thank you for taking the time to read this and for doing your part to better coexist!
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